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Thursday, January 15, 2009

Intimacy conflict

Believe it or not as a normal human beings we have two main desires that seem to be at odds with each other.


On the one hand, we want to be in a relationship, to feel we belong, to give and receive love. On the other, we want to be free, autonomous (hehe..) and not overly controlled by another.

As a conclusion, we want both togetherness and separateness,closeness and distances...hmm...typical huh....

But , each desire has its disadvantages.In a relationship, we can be hurt and are responsible to one another- we lose our separateness.But , if you want separateness, you have to pay the price- loneliness.

People keep on asking me.." bila lagik???" hehe.personally , i just leave this to God. I know one thing for sure that as the youngest daughter/sis, I love freedom and afraid of being hurt . Well, God knows best.

13 comments:

Coffee Girl said...

Well, from one to another, it is about doing it at your own time. There's always two sides of every story, and we need them both. Black white, weak strong, bitter sweet, together separate... :-)

Btw, I've linked you!!!!

Unknown said...

One thing for sure having a partner doesn't mean you can enjoy the togetherness.One can be as lonely as a deserted island even among thousands of people around him or her.At the same time, one can be completed even without any partner.As long as that person make peace within himself or herself and know he/she is well loved by people who does matter, it should be fine I guess.

Freedom?I still think it is a state of mind.

Anyway, don't bother about the endless bila lagik question.There must be a good reason behind it that we mortal do not know as Allah know best what is good for us.

Coffee Girl said...

I know exactly how that feels Nurlisa. Lonely in a room full of people. Aku nyampuk agik. Sowi. Hehe

nur enjel said...

one other...

oh my goodness... you have linked me ...guess i need to do the same too ...hehe..need to ask madam grace about that .. i am new and blur

BTW, i hope we can have our dream guy ..mine i think is quite to find nowadays ... just like my friend said ..." ambiklah yang mana mana baruk keluar madrasah ya ..."( madrasah-religious high school) as i told her that first quality i want in man is 'sembahyang lima waktu' .haha.... But , my taste is definitely not ustaz ...gee...

nur enjel said...

Nurlisa...

one of my good friends once told me that the only thing that keep you alive and happy is God...Not your friends, not your family and not even your husband ...

nur enjel said...

Gee...i found myself to put a gap whenever i close to someone (be it boy or girl)...i don't know why ...but my tendency to do that is very high ....

PUTERI SANTUBONG said...

huh..people sik akan berhenti 'keep on asking' su...

mun kita lom kawen, akan ditanyak bila lagik nak kawen?

bila dah kawin, ditanyak bila nak ada anak?

bila dah adaa anak soran, bila nak tambah agik?


the conclusion is


Don't make our life so difficult..as long we are still on the rite track.. kadang2 terfikir juak,

LIFE IS 'NGUTIK' !!

hehe..

nur enjel said...

puteri santubong...

nang ngutik ... tapi life must go on ...

BorneoAngler said...

wow

Anonymous said...

"Gee...i found myself to put a gap whenever i close to someone (be it boy or girl)...i don't know why ...but my tendency to do that is very high ...." - as quoted by usu...

now i know where i gt that one from...i have the same thing goin on

nur enjel said...

nurul ..thanks for dropping by .. take care yourself..

Nimi Momo said...

oh my this is so true.. likes your simple posting :D am linking you.. *wink*

nur enjel said...

Sumuk ...Thanks *wink*