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Intimacy conflict

Believe it or not as a normal human beings we have two main desires that seem to be at odds with each other.

On the one hand, we want to be in a relationship, to feel we belong, to give and receive love. On the other, we want to be free, autonomous (hehe..) and not overly controlled by another.

As a conclusion, we want both togetherness and separateness,closeness and distances...hmm...typical huh....

But , each desire has its disadvantages.In a relationship, we can be hurt and are responsible to one another- we lose our separateness.But , if you want separateness, you have to pay the price- loneliness.

People keep on asking me.." bila lagik???" hehe.personally , i just leave this to God. I know one thing for sure that as the youngest daughter/sis, I love freedom and afraid of being hurt . Well, God knows best.