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Intimacy conflict

Believe it or not as a normal human beings we have two main desires that seem to be at odds with each other.

On the one hand, we want to be in a relationship, to feel we belong, to give and receive love. On the other, we want to be free, autonomous (hehe..) and not overly controlled by another.

As a conclusion, we want both togetherness and separateness,closeness and distances...hmm...typical huh....

But , each desire has its disadvantages.In a relationship, we can be hurt and are responsible to one another- we lose our separateness.But , if you want separateness, you have to pay the price- loneliness.

People keep on asking me.." bila lagik???" hehe.personally , i just leave this to God. I know one thing for sure that as the youngest daughter/sis, I love freedom and afraid of being hurt . Well, God knows best.

Discommunication between men and women

The discommunications occur maybe because of men and women has different emotional needs. Women usually complain about problems because they want their problems to be acknowledged, while men complain about problems because they are asking for solutions. One of my good friends told me that when we want to talk to this human from mars we need to be well prepared with all the facts and theories to support our ideas or opinions. hehe .sounds complicated to me. But , i don't think i am in a right position to discuss this matter in details due to lack of experiences and the fact that i am still single.Nevertheless, as an academician, i do believe that conflict usually occur due to lack of communication.

Alhamdulilah

Unexpectedly , today i managed to create my own blog , alhamdulilah .Inspired by my eldest sister , Madam Grace and Serenity,hopefully this blog can be a medium to spread and share ideas, knowledge and life experiences. I would like to welcome myself to this fun world of cyber. Thank you for viewing my blog .